Photos by Erica Livoti
Occupation: Director of Marketing & Social Media, Literary Agent
Tell us about yourself in under 100 words:
I’m from Philadelphia originally, and while I consider Maine to be my sort of “spiritual home,” I’ve been living in New York City for the better part of a decade. I am a reader, writer, amateur ukulele player, wife, sister, daughter, friend, traveler, and foodie. I like walking everywhere, usually while listening to audiobooks, and confess to also being a total TV junkie. I’d recommend Amy Poehler’s Yes Please as one of the most entertaining and inspiring audiobooks I’ve come across recently, and can’t get enough of The Americans on FX. Watch it so it doesn’t get canceled!
What is something about you that most people don’t know?
I always try to project confidence and ease, particularly in social situations. I think most people don’t know that more often than not, I’m actually pretty anxious, constantly worried about how I choose to engage in conversation, or what I chose to wear – was it the right thing?
Close your eyes and picture “beautiful”. What comes to mind?
Literally the very first thing that comes to mind is sitting in a boat in the middle of a quiet cove in Maine. I think it’s no coincidence that the place I find to be the most beautiful allows me to be the most comfortable and free – cutoffs and t-shirts, no makeup, without a second thought. I shed my tougher New York armor as soon as I step off the ferry, and that rustic landscape gives me a freedom that I crave throughout the rest of the year. While I love New York for thousands of reasons, the stress of everyday city life, as well as the inevitable focus on your appearance, can be a lot to handle.
What is the most amazing thing your body has done for you?
In 2013, I went to St. Lucia with a bunch of friends and we hiked the Gros Piton. After a few hours and 2530 feet, we finally reached the top. It was one of the hardest and most rewarding things I’d done to date, but I recognized that it was harder for me than for anyone else in our group.
I was thankful in that moment that my body got me to the top, and in doing so reminded me of the other awesome things it can do when given the opportunity. I’ve since been trying to create these opportunities, finding joy and strength in running, spinning and occasionally zumba. My body has become stronger and more capable, and I’m very grateful for that.
Have you ever struggled with insecurities surrounding your appearance? If yes, please tell us about this.
Of course! Is it possible to avoid developing insecurities about your appearance? If so, please tell me now so I can tell my future children…
In my experience, we’re taught from an incredibly early age that looking your best (read: thin) really matters. I’ve certainly struggled with insecurities, particularly about my weight and my sense of style. This conflict had the power to be completely debilitating in particularly bleak moments when I was a teenager, and if I’m honest still infiltrate my thoughts on a mostly daily basis.
I’ve gotten better at putting those feelings on the back burner. It helped once I identified and focused on the things that matter much more to me, like learning more about the world when I read and look for new writers, and spending time with people I care about.
I’ve found as I’ve grown up that there’s a lot of truth to something my mom always told us when we were kids, “No one can make you feel anything. You are responsible for your own feelings.” I’ve chewed on that one often, and I think it’s both excellent and daunting advice. I try hard to take ownership of my insecurities, so I have to say, I’m disappointed when I notice myself sizing up people on the subway and comparing how what I’m wearing or how I’m built measures up. I hope to one day stop doing that.
When do you feel most confident in yourself?
At work, I feel most confident when I feel like I’ve nailed a meeting or a phone call; when I feel like I’ve spoken eloquently and have contributed as an independent thinker. This continues at home, where I love confidently brainstorming ideas or thoughts with my husband, who always gives me great feedback and support.
Making people laugh is also an instant confidence booster!
If you could give one message to women of the world what would it be?
We are amazing creatures full of so much potential and life. We owe it to ourselves and to each other to support that potential, and to always strive to create an environment that allows us to do these things, in any way we can.